http://www.safe4all.org/news/ Stop Abuse For Everyone News OpenACS 5.0 Fri, 23 Apr 2010 19:19:01 GMT http://www.safe4all.org/rss-support/images/openacs_logo_rss.gif http://www.safe4all.org/news/ 126 48 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=99529 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=99529 Dear Abby featured SAFE in her column today: ---------------------------------------------- DEAR ABBY: I know most of your readers are women, but could you please spread awareness of female-on-male domestic violence? You have done a great job with male-on-female abuse awareness, and I think American society is fairly well saturated with it. But there is little out there for men who have been or are being abused. ? Minnesota reader DEAR READER: Domestic violence is not restricted to any social, racial, religious, economic group or particular gender. And while male victims may be embarrassed to disclose it, men can be victims of domestic violence, too. In years past, men were hesitant to call a domestic abuse hotline when there was a crisis because they were ashamed, had been bullied into thinking they ?deserved it,? or were afraid they wouldn?t be believed. That is no longer the case. Male victims of domestic violence can find help by contacting the Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women. The organization?s toll-free helpline is (888) 743-5754 or log onto its Web site at www.dahmw.org. Another organization, SAFE (Stop Abuse for Everyone), also assists victims of abuse regardless of age, gender or sexual orientation. Its Web site is www.safe4all.org. Read more: http://www.sunherald.com/2010/04/22/2123711/teen-keeps-mum-about-vile-grouping.html ---------------------------------------------- If you're looking for help, here are good places to start: Free brochures to download: http://www.safe4all.org/brochure Finding help guide: http://www.safe4all.org/help/ General discussion forum: http://www.safe4all.org/forums/forum-view?forum%5fid=6756 Fri, 23 Apr 2010 19:19:01 GMT http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=84862 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=84862 Stop Abuse For Everyone announced today that it will allow its abuse brochures to be freely downloaded via the SAFE website. President Jade Rubick explained: "We decided the best way to get the word out for underserved victims of domestic violence was to make these quality brochures freely available via our website. We give any visitor to our website a license to download the brochures and print them out, so they can be freely available across the country and throughout the world where it is needed most. We encourage individuals to print them out and put them in public spaces, after consulting with the organizations involved, so that everyone who is in abusive relationships can find the help they are looking for." The Stop Abuse For Everyone brochures are available via: http://www.safe4all.org/brochure Thu, 04 Mar 2010 02:00:12 GMT http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=79751 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=79751 SAFE President Jade Rubick spoke during a panel discussion and gave a workshop on inclusive services at the Intimate Partner Violence Symposium: http://www.nyu.edu/cvr/conference/ The conference featured people who were looking for alternative approaches to domestic violence. A large theme of the conference was looking "outside the box", and looking at research based approaches to domestic violence. Fri, 20 Nov 2009 08:08:21 GMT http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=79014 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=79014 The court ruled, in a significant victory for advocates of equality, that programs for perpetrators, shelters, and certification must be gender-neutral in approach. Men and Women Against Discrimination filed the complaint with the state, and won. Fri, 09 Oct 2009 21:55:24 GMT http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=77402 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=77402 http://www.sanluisobispo.com/living/family_relationships/story/799385.html Fri, 31 Jul 2009 15:06:47 GMT http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=77332 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=77332 ***Abused Men -The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence Second Edition is now Available! The book that started a revolution in how with think about and deal with intimate partner violence ten years ago has now been published in a new expanded second edition! Available for the first time in a lower-cost paperback edition on Amazon.com or by ordering through your local bookstore. PHILIP W. COOK is an investigative journalist who has won awards from the Associated Press and the Society of Professional Journalists. He has appeared in interviews on CNN, MSNBC, several times on the Fox Network's The O'Reilly Factor, Montel, Sally, CBS radio, the nationally broadcast Jim Bohannon Radio Show, and been heard many other local radio talk shows. He has also been quoted as an authority on the subject by the Canadian and U.S. National Associated Press and more than 40 daily newspapers across the United States, Canada, and Great Britain. Say the words "domestic violence," and images of battered women come to mind. Yet the more accurate picture is different, and it crosses genders. The overwhelming majority of all published peer-reviewed surveys show that both men and women are equally violent in their intimate partner relationships. Surveys show women strike the first blow in about half of the domestic disputes nationwide, and a National Violence Against Women Survey funded by the Centers for Disease Control and U.S. Justice Department, found that nearly 40 percent of all domestic violence victims are men. Police in states nationwide are receiving training in how to identify the "primary aggressor" in domestic violence, and police crackdowns on spouse/partner abuse are netting more and more arrests of women as the abusers. It is not a form of violence particular to America, as similar increases in female batterers and arrests are being reported in England, too, and across Europe. Add to that the more widely recognized issue of partner abuse by gay and lesbian couples, and it's clear why Philip W. Cook's book, Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence (Praeger, 1997) drew attention and praise nationwide from people and major news outlets as well as scholarly publications like The Journal of Marriage and Family and popular household advice sources including the Dear Abby and Ask Amy nationally syndicated columns. On the 10th anniversary of that groundbreaking book, Cook began revising and expanding his work, resulting in this 2nd edition of a disturbing look at a trend that has in the last 10 years only increased. Millions of men are victims of abuse. This new edition includes up-to-date surveys on the prevalence of intimate partner violence against men with personal interviews as well as cases drawn from headlines of recent media covering politicians, and other public figures. This new edition also includes updates on law, legislation, court activity, social responses, police activity, support groups, batterer programs, and crisis intervention programs. The final chapter contains a detailed and specific description of needed reforms in the current approach to intimate partner violence whether the victims are male or female. It is an agenda for reform that Murray Straus, Ph.D., co-director of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire, calls ?Important for our country.? ISBN-10: 0313356718 $24.95 at amazon.com: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_b?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=abused+men+the+hidden+side+of+domestic+violence&x=8&y=17 Contact Philip Cook via: www.abusedmen.com See some of the reviews received for the first edition of Abused Men below: ?Fascinating ... explains the many aspects of domestic violence. A wealth of material that could be helpful.? ?Dear Abby? Abigail Van Buren, Syndicated Columnist. ?For a look at the often discounted issue of partner abuse against men?read it!? --?Ask Amy? Amy Dickinson, Chicago Tribune syndicated columnist. ?The wife with a rolling pin is no joke, but a statistical fact...Cook shows at length, that the sexes have two contrasting strategies?By Cook?s own standards, those of a journalist, this is a highly successful book.? -West Coast Review of Books ?Unique. It is a book likely to be helpful to many men, and if action is taken on the agenda outlined in the final chapter, to our country as a whole.? ¾Murray A. Straus, Ph.D., Co-Director Family Research Laboratory, University of New Hampshire. Co-Author, Behind Closed Doors-Violence in the American Family ?Cook writes in an interesting and inviting manner, the engaging style of a journalist providing an in-depth discussion of a topic that he acknowledges is controversial.? -Journal of Marriage and the Family ?I am grateful to Philip Cook for writing Abused Men. This is a brave book. He brings to bear in this book his knowledge as a journalist and his evident care and compassion for all victims of domestic violence.? Erin Pizzey, Founder Chiswick Women?s Refuge. Author, Scream Quietly or the Neighbors Will Hear. (Pizzey is the founder of the modern battered women?s movement. Her book and shelter were the first in the world). "Philip Cook's Abused Men is well conceived, well documented, and well written; it is an excellent source book for both perpetrators and victims of domestic violence as well as for police officers, community leaders, health care providers, family therapists, crisis-line workers, and other helping professionals. Another positive aspect of this book is Cook's ability to make research findings on male abuse and its consequences accessible and understandable for readers new to the field of domestic violence." Eugen Lupri, Ph.D. Professor Emeritus of Sociology The University of Calgary Calgary, Alberta Canada ??Thought provoking research which will stimulate further inquiry into human behavior long neglected.? Ronald R. Still, M.S., Chief of Police (Retired), Portland, Oregon. ?Very thought-provoking and well researched. Should aid in educating medical professionals regarding this potential diagnosis as well as help shape our legal approach.? Kenneth H. Coleman, M.D., J.D., Emergency Physician and Attorney. Past member, YWCA Domestic Violence Advisory Board. ?Studies suggest women hit first about half the time, that women are more likely to use weapons and that as a result, men are?seriously injured in domestic violence. Mr. Cook presents his case dispassionately.? -The Dallas Morning News. ?Philip W. Cook is acutely aware that it would be wholly counterproductive if the difficult and still under-researched subject of abused men were either hijacked by the ?men?s rights? tendency or dismissed out of hand by the fringe of the women?s movement ... Not least because violent women seem so often to have been the victims of domestic abuse themselves.?-The London Observer ?Cooks achievement is admirable. Not only does he cover his topic succinctly and thoroughly, meticulously documenting each step he takes, but he also delves into a number of pertinent related issues lesser authors might have missed entirely. ? Cook has written a remarkable, invaluable book.? ?Transitions? The Journal of Men?s Perspectives Wed, 29 Jul 2009 00:46:42 GMT http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=75092 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=75092 Dear Abby featured SAFE in a 5/6/2009 column. http://www.connpost.com/ci_12292958 DEAR ABBY: My wife thinks it's funny when she hits me. The other day I was splitting some wood and decided to take a break. I began driving golf balls into the field. She came out, grabbed the club out of my hands and whacked me in the leg with it. When I asked her why, she said, "Get back to work!" and started laughing. I was left with a large welt and a big bruise. Another time she bought some king crab legs for dinner. When I asked her if she was serving anything else with them, she picked up a crab claw and hit me in the forehead with it. She thought it was funny. I ended up in the emergency room with three stitches. Last night, I was paying bills on the computer. She walked in and smacked me in the chin with the keyboard. She said I should be able to do the bills on paper like a normal person. We have been together nine years, married for three. I love her, but I'm getting tired of her little "jokes." How can I approach her? I want her to know how I feel, but I'm afraid to offend her or make her angry. --­ FRUSTRATED IN OREGON DEAR FRUSTRATED: Why are you afraid to speak your mind? Are you afraid she'll hit you again? Your wife has a sadistic sense of humor and enjoys seeing you in pain. Unless you draw the line, she will cause you serious injury. For your own safety you should get the heck out of there. What you have described is a form of spousal abuse, and it will escalate. I urge you to contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline, at 1-800-799-7233. The counselors there offer guidance to women AND men who are being abused by their spouse or partner. Another organization, SAFE (Stop Abuse for Everyone), also assists victims of abuse. Its Web site is www.safe4all.org. Tue, 05 May 2009 02:59:18 GMT http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=73068 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=73068 DR. JILL MURRAY IN PEOPLE MAGAZINE! SAFE Speaker, Dr. Jill Murray is quoted in the current issue of People magazine (March 16 edition). The article deals with the Rihanna and Chris Brown case. Dr. Murray will also be quoted in a follow-up article in People on newsstands this Friday. Tue, 10 Mar 2009 20:25:19 GMT http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=72972 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=72972 See: http://www.earthtimes.org/articles/show/254858,male-domestic-abuse-victims-get-their-own-shelters-in-netherlands.html Wed, 04 Mar 2009 23:09:52 GMT http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=72642 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=72642 See: http://www.chinapost.com.tw/taiwan/national/national-news/2009/01/13/191732/Harsher-penalties.htm Sat, 14 Feb 2009 01:22:50 GMT http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=3182 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=3182 News Release-Immediate (Washington, DC, & Tualatin, Oregon) From: The National Crime Prevention Council and Stop Abuse For Everyone. Stop Abuse for Everyone (SAFE) is one of only two* organizations in the Pacific Northwest (Oregon/Washington) to be selected as one of the nations most innovative programs to prevent violent domestic crimes, by the National Crime Prevention Council. The Official announcement from NCPC states: "The National Crime Prevention Council's new publication, 50 Strategies to prevent Violent Domestic Crimes, offer evidence that domestic violence recognizes no boundaries in terms of race, culture, age, sexual orientation, class, gender, or citizenship status. This 150-page document takes examples from 36 states, highlighting innovative programs that work to prevent intimate partner and teen dating violence, child maltreatment and elder abuse. Selected from a repertoire of the most progressive non-profits, law enforcement agencies, and grassroots community groups, each strategy's profile offers tips from program organizers in the field, lessons learned, and obstacles faced. "Replication and adaptability were necessary qualities for a strategy to be included in the publication," said Jack Calhoun, President and CEO of the National Crime Prevention Council. "The programs highlighted in this guide are inspirational and provide practitioners tips and strategies to use back in their own community -- This publication is designed for both local practitioners as well as law enforcement, profiling strategies implemented by both. "This document will serve as a useful reference to law enforcement officials in the investigation and response to domestic violence," stated Thomas Faust, Executive Director of the National Sheriffs" Association. "Once again, the National Crime Prevention Council captures both the complexity of crime prevention and offers important examples of effective interventions," stated Jean Adnopoz Associate Professor, Child Study Center Yale University School of Medicine. Copies are available by calling 800-NCPC-911. "We are honored to be selected by the NCPC as one of the nation's most innovative and effective programs to combat domestic violence. We note that the Council chose programs like ours that provide "new and alternative methods to aid under-served victims of violent domestic crime including teens in dating relationships, elderly victims of late-life abuse, child witnesses to violence, battered immigrants, male victims, and survivors in the gay and lesbian community" this is precisely the mission of Stop Abuse For Everyone. We hope this publication and recognition will assist us in getting the message out that law enforcement, crisis lines and shelters, health care providers, government and private agencies can provide services to people that have long been neglected. We stand ready to demonstrate that this can be done without sacrifice to the needs of other types of victims. SAFE can provide training, publications, and program design assistance in meeting this goal in communities across the US and Canada. We hope that this recognition will also encourage individual and foundation charitable support so that our mission can continue," says Jade Rubick, SAFE International Board President. Information about Stop Abuse For Everyone can be obtained through http://www.safe4all.org [1] (503) 853-8686. Stop Abuse For Everyone (SAFE) is a non-profit 501(c)3 charitable organization. The National Crime Prevention Council manages the McGruff Take A Bite Out of Crime public service advertising campaign among many other services. Press contact: Lisa Lybbert 202-261-4152 *The other is Lane County Parole and Probation Dept., Eugene, Oregon. Our colleagues at the Battered Men's Helpline, in Maine, also were receipients of this honor. [1] http://www.safe4all.org Mon, 29 Dec 2008 22:28:03 GMT http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=70989 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=70989 Season's greetings from Stop Abuse For Everyone! We would like to remind you that if you wat to donate this month, your contribution is entirely tax-deductible if received by SAFE by December 31st of this year. To contribute, you may go to our website (http://www.safe4all.org/donate) or mail directly to SAFE Stop Abuse For Everyone 16869 SW 65th Ave #212 Lake Oswego, OR 97035-7865 U.S.A. Have a healthy, fun, and SAFE holiday season! PS If you know others who you think might be interested in supporting inclusive domestic violence services, consider forwarding this to them. PPS If you have questions about donating, you can contact us at safe@safe4all.org or (503) 853-8686. Thank you! http://www.safe4all.org/forums/message-view?message_id=70985 Wed, 03 Dec 2008 03:05:01 GMT http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=69814 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=69814 We are proud to announce that SAFE Speaker John Hamel will be giving the keynote address and conduct two workshops to over 100 facilitators at the Batterer's Education Program Conference in Waterloo/Cedar Rapids, Iowa on November 6. John's address will explore issues relevant to working with men who batter along with its controversial issues. Fri, 26 Sep 2008 21:03:21 GMT http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=68691 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=68691 Ms. Overberg began working with victims in the early 1960's through a program of the Providence, RI School System. She found that many of the children who had emotional, academic and acting out problems came from violent homes,and she worked primarily with their mothers. During that time, Ms. Overberg went back to school and got her bachelors degree. From there she went to Miami, attended Barry University and worked with the elderly, many of whom were being battered by their children. After graduating with an MSW, she drove to California with the goal of living and working in different parts of the state, which she says she has ?pretty well accomplished.? After working with the mentally ill at a YWCA, she then spent the remainder of her career working with family violence, sexual assault, rape and stalking victims. From 1984 to presently, she has had positions as the CEO of various organizations, including the Valley Oasis in Lancaster where she opened the first and only shelter for battered men in the country. She was working with an agency in Salinas which was first called the Women's Crisis Center and is now known as the Central Coast Crisis Center and advertises that it serves all ages, genders and families in need.She currently works with the Men's Center in San Diego to help maintain services to men throughout San Diego and Orange Counties. Specialized Topics: * Forming Community Agency Collaborative's * Establishing a Co-Ed Shelter Program * How to Sell Your Program to the Funding Agencies Sat, 13 Sep 2008 00:22:46 GMT http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=68785 http://www.safe4all.org/news/item?item%5fid=68785 Stop Abuse For Everyone now has a Chapter in Washington. We will be announcing more about this most recent addition to the SAFE organization soon. Here is their contact info.: SAFE-WA P O Box 1342 White Salmon, WA 98672-1342 Phone: 1-360-989-1411 E-mail: safe.waus@yahoo.com Mark Fearing: Executive Director Welcome to SAFE-WA Board of Directors and to Mark, and thank you all for your commitment to "Stop Abuse For Everyone"! Wed, 13 Aug 2008 02:59:09 GMT