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1: Affects of verbal abuse from childhood

Posted by Cindy C on 07/22/10 09:14 PM

I just turned 40. I'm physically disabled. My father never accepted the fact that I needed to use a electric wheelchair. He use to call me fat (I've only weighed like 80 - 90 pounds all my life). He teased me about everything. Just to irritate me, he would flirt with my friends when they'd come over. Needless to say, this caused me to go out a lot.

As an adult, when someone (especially men)tries to get close to me emotionally, I tend to say something hurtful to push them away. I don't mean to, it just happens. Is this normal for verbal abuse survivors? What can I do to stop this cycle?

Thank you

2: Re: Affects of verbal abuse from childhood (response to 1)

Posted by brenda m on 08/22/10 12:02 AM

Cindy, I'm sorry. I know it is a feeling you have that is hard to put into words. I'm also a victim of abuse by my x husband of 30 years and our children who are now adults were abused by him and I can see the effects that has had on them even though they claim they are fine. My x would flirt with my daughters friends and even had a one night or day -he stayed home from work one day and my daughters friend was here. he said he couldn't help it. Sickening. I really don't think you should date right now until you have been able to talk to someone and if you do just be friends for a long time so you will be able to talk about what has happened to you in the past

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