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Stop Abuse for Everyone (SAFE) is an organization that provides information, resources, a media campaign, educational brochures, an advocacy program, as well as, expert speakers on an array of abuse topics. We differ from most organizations because we help victims that tend to fall in-between the cracks and have few services available to them.

If you need help finding non-emergency services, checkout our National Resources Directory. If there are not any services provided near you, try contacting your local domestic violence service provider, the Domestic Violence Hotline, or the Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women.

If you are in immediate danger, dial 9-1-1 for emergency response.

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The SAFE Speakers Bureau is organized to present accurate, balanced, and objective information about domestic violence with a focus on those who typically fall between the cracks of domestic violence services. These groups include men, gays and lesbians, transgendered men and women, teens, the elderly, and immigrants.


Speakers are approved by the SAFE International Board and represent a broad range of expertise. Each speaker agrees with the mission, goals and purpose of SAFE which follows this listing. Joint presentations by two or more of the speakers are encouraged. Speakers are available for trainings, lectures, panel discussions and seminars.

To inquire about scheduling a presentation for your group contact Phil Cook or Stanley Green by phone at 503-389-2111 or by email at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
 

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Mr. Philip Cook is a noted journalist who has received awards for his reporting from the Associated Press and the Professional Journalism Society among others. His work objectively examines and explains relevant research results, the feelings and problems of interviewed victims, and provider and media response to the issue. He has examined scores of national and international domestic violence and family programs and evaluated their potential for helpful replication. His presentations on the subject of male abuse victims have received high praise from a diverse spectrum of society such as "Dear Abby", leading domestic violence experts, attorneys, physicians, law enforcement, and numerous mental health professionals. He has served as a founding board member of Stop Abuse for Everyone, our organization dedicated to helping victims of domestic violence regardless of gender or sexual orientation.Mr. Cook has appeared on numerous national radio and television shows such as MSNBC, Fox TV's "The Crier Report,"The O'Reilly Factor," "Montel Williams," "The Home and Family Show," and many others, He is the author of the pioneering book,Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence (Praeger,1977). His articles on domestic violence have been published in several publications, including the Journal of Human Behavior in the Social Environment and the book, Family Interventions in Domestic Violence: A Handbook of Gender-Inclusive Theory and Treatment (Hamel & Nicholls,2006).

Specialized Topics:
  • Battered men: the hidden side of domestic violence
  • Media and domestic violence
  • The research on domestic violence


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Elizabeth Crawford, MS, MPH, HES, Domestic Violence Prevention Educator and Therapist

In 1995, Elizabeth Crawford founded the Domestic Violence Counseling Center (DVCC) which is a non-profit organization utilizing a psychoeducational model instead of a criminal justice approach to address domestic violence. DVCC, an outpatient counseling center, focuses on  the behavioral health needs of domestic violence victims and domestic violence offenders who are experiencing  violence-related emotional trauma. Working in concert with Crawford, the West Virginia Health Care Authority, a healthcare regulatory agency,  also recognized the need for this type of domestic violence program and accordingly issued a Certificate of Need to DVCC. The Certificate of Need  declares that domestic violence victims and domestic violence offenders will experience serious problems in obtaining needed behavioral health care services without the existence of DVCC.

DVCC serves any victim or offender of domestic violence regardless of their gender, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, etc.  

Ms.Crawford received a masters of science in Public Health and Community Health Education/Wellness from West Virginia University. She is member of the Public Health honorary Gamma Mu Chapter of Delta Omega. This honor was bestowed on Ms. Crawford due to her work in the development of evidence-based and progressive approaches in the prevention and/or intervention of domestic violence.   

During her career, Crawford has provided numerous national, regional and local television, radio and newspaper interviews on the behavioral health needs of domestic violence victims and domestic violence offenders. Ms. Crawford serves as an expert on domestic violence in the African-American community. 

Crawford co-authored and presented an article titled “Mandatory Arrest Policies Harmful to African-American Communities” to members of the United States Congressional Black Caucus.   

Specialized Topics:
    · The Behavioral Health Issues Faced by Domestic Violence Victims and Domestic Violence Offenders
    · Domestic Violence in the African-American Community


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Patrick Dati is an advocate for all victims of abuse: domestic, sexual, and gender preference. Patrick is an advocate because he cares. At age nine, his life was changed forever. He was raped by serial killer John Wayne Gacy. He cares about anyone who was sexually abused as a kid. He knows firsthand the mental and physical trauma victims live with. He cares about anyone who was bullied in a domestic relationship. Patrick cares about anyone who had to hide because of sexual preference. His advocacy is dedicated to helping victims stop hiding and to become the person they are intended to be so each of them can say “I AM ME”. His message is simple: “together we can overcome the hiding and shame caused by abuse and bullying.”

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veral organizations devoted to promoting the rights for victims of domestic abuse and the advancement of LGBTQ rights. These organizations include Chicago’s Center on Halsted; New York City Anti­Violence Project; MaleSurvivor; Teach Antibullying Inc; Dream Catchers for Abused Children; The National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse; and RAINN. In 2011, Dati was selected by SAMHA/US Department of Health and Human Services to participate in their 2012 trauma survivor campaign. In 2014 Dati’s book “I AM ME” was published.

Dati has appeared on WGN News with Larry Potash; ABC News with John Garcia; NBC News with Dick Johnson, ABC 7 Windy City Live with Val Warner. Additionally, he has been interviewed by Sarah LeTrent from CNN ; by Naomi Nix from Chicago Tribune; by Mike Thomas from Chicago Sun­Times; and by Carrie Maxwell from Windy City Media Group. He is frequently invited to be a guest speaker on radio shows such as D­Talk Radio Show hosted by Denise Brown; eHealth Radio Network hosted by Eric Michaels; and blogtalkradio hosted by Laurie Smith. 

Dati’s book “I AM ME” was published in 2014.  It chronicles his life of abuse commencing with the rape by John Wayne Gacy as a nine year old KIRKUS describes “I AM ME” as a “riveting, heart-wrenching chronicle of one man’s journey from victim to survivor.” It is an intense story that could empower other survivors.


Specialized Topics:
  • Domestic Violence
  • Bullying
  • Sibling Bullying
  • Child Abuse Prevention
  • Coming Out


richard davis Richard Davis

Richard is a retired police lieutenant. He has a graduate degree in liberal arts from Harvard University and another in criminal justice from Anna Maria College. He is a member of the International Honor Society of Historians and the American Society of Criminology and an adjunct instructor for Quincy College at Plymouth, MA.

Lt. Davis is also the president for Family Nonviolence, Inc. (www.familynonviolence.org) in Fairhaven, MA, and the author of the books Domestic Violence: Facts and Fallacies (Praeger, 1998) and Domestic Violence: Intervention, Prevention, Policies, and Solutions (Taylor & Francis, 2008). Many of his articles have appeared in newspapers, journals, and magazines concerning the issue of domestic violence and its intersection with the criminal justice system.

Lt. Davis has online columns concerning domestic violence at www.policeone.com, and www.nycop.com

Specialized Topics:
  • DV Laws and Their Intersection with the Criminal Justice System
  • Bullying
  • Corporal Punishment
  • Dating Violence



don duttonDon Dutton, Ph.D.

Don Dutton received his Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Toronto in 1970. In 1974 while on faculty at the University of British Columbia, he began to investigate the criminal justice response to wife assault, preparing a government report that outlined the need for a more aggressive response, and subsequently training police in "domestic disturbance" intervention techniques. After receiving training as a group therapist at Cold Mountain Institute, he co founded the Assaultive Husbands Project in 1979, a court mandated treatment program for men convicted of wife assault. During the 15 years he spent providing therapy for these men, he drew on his background in both social and clinical psychology to develop a model for perpetrators of intimate abuse. He has published over 100 papers and three books, including the Domestic Assault of Women, The Batterer: A Psychological Profile and The Abusive Personality.

He has provided talks at the Sorbonne in Paris, the US Army at Walter Reed Hospital, Navajo Nation in Arizona, the joint ABA-APA Taskforce on DV in Washington, DC and the US Department of Defense. SAFE Speaker Dutton has frequently served as an expert witness in civil trials involving domestic abuse and in criminal trials involving family violence, including his work for the prosecution on the O.J. Simpson trial. He is currently Professor of Psychology at the University of British Columbia, Vancouver, BC, Canada. His latest work, Rethinking Domestic Violence includes an examination of how the gender paradigm developed in domestic violence research and policy.

Specialized Topics:
  • Cause and Consequences of Domestic Violence
  • Treatment and Criminal Justice Response to DV
  • Psychological Factors in the Development of Violence


 
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Stanley Green is the first male survivor of domestic violence to present the opening keynote at a professional/academic conference on family violence.  His international advocacy for victims of intimate partner violence spans more than 20 years and he was the founding co-chair of the Male Victims/Survivors Task Force of the Los Angeles County Domestic Violence Council.


Mr. Green has appeared on ABC News 20/20, The Oprah Winfrey Show, and numerous other print and broadcast media in the USA, Canada, the Caribbean, and Latin America.  He has conducted trainings for social service agencies and Native American organizations in the USA and Canada and presented to numerous universities and military institutions—including the US Army Academy of Health Sciences.

 Mr. Green has testified at a hearing on insurance industry discrimination against victims of domestic violence conducted by the National Association of Insurance Commissioners, by invitation of then-Washington State Insurance Commissioner Deborah Senn; and a similar hearing conducted by (now-US-Senator) Ron Wyden, then a member of the US House of Representatives from Oregon.  Mr. Green served as the only man on the legislative committee of the Washington Coalition of Sexual Assault Programs from 1997 - 2001 and served on the Public Information Committee of the Los Angeles County Domestic Violence Council from 1992 to 1993.

 In 1999, Mr. Green co-launched the effort to include a nondiscrimination clause in the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA).  He testified at nine meetings of the US President's National Advisory Committee on Violence Against Women; the US Office on Violence Against Women awarded Mr. Green a scholarship to attend the invitation-only Symposium celebrating the 10th anniversary of VAWA, held in Washington, DC, in September 2004.  President Barak Obama signed a bipartisan-supported nondiscrimination clause into VAWA in 2013.  This is the first Federal law to not only prohibit discrimination on the basis of sex, but to also prohibit discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity—actual or perceived.

Mr. Green is currently Director of Intimate Partner Violence Prevention for the Men’s Health Network, a national nonprofit organization headquartered in DC.

 



john hammelJohn Hamel, LCSW 

John Hamel, LCSW, has a Masters in Social Welfare from U.C.L.A., and has conducted batterer intervention and parent programs in the San Francisco Bay Area since 1992. He is the author of Gender-Inclusive Treatment of Intimate Partner Abuse (Springer, 2005), and co-editor with Tonia Nicholls, PhD, of Family Interventions in Domestic Violence: A Handbook of Gender-Inclusive Theory and Treatment (Springer, 2007). Mr. Hamel is Editor-in-Chief of the peer-reviewed professional journal, Partner Abuse, published quarterly by Springer Publishing. He regularly speaks at conferences on domestic violence, and has provided consultation and training to mental health professionals, victim advocates and shelter workers, social service organizations, teachers, attorneys, judges and law enforcement officers. He also provides case consultation and expert witness testimony. His latest book, Intimate Partner and Family Abuse: A Casebook of Gender Inclusive Therapy, was published by Springer in Spring, 2008.

Specialized Topics:
  • New Approaches for Effective and Inclusive Batterer Intervention
  • Domestic Violence Today: Truth, Myth, and all The Shades of Gray (includes manual and reading guide)
  • Domestic Violence: The 12 Things You Aren't Supposed to Know
  • Male Victims of Domestic Abuse
  • Gender Bias in the Courts: A Second Look
  • Family Law Basics: Divorce, Paternity, Custody and Support



R.L. McNeelyR. L. McNeely, Ph.d, J.D., School of Social Welfare, Univ. of Wisconsin-Milwaukee

Dr. R.L. McNeely is a professor of social welfare at the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee, and a practicing attorney. His published books as well as peer-reviewed journal articles have focused upon issues of work and family, aging and race, and on numerous aspects of domestic violence.His work in the field of domestic violence inspired a NBC documentary, "Of Macho and Men," and he has appeared on CBS Morning News discussing domestic violence as a human issue, rather than a women's issue. R.L. is also a Research Fellow of the Gerontological Society of America. He has testified before Congress on the issue of domestic violence, serves as a domestic violence consultant for the US Army and, as an attorney, has successfully represented individuals falsely accused of domestic violence. We are thrilled that he speaks for SAFE. Dr. McNeely is a speaker who will challenge, enlighten, and educate any audience

Specialized Topics:
  • Research on domestic violence
  • Legal aspects of domestic violence



david pisarraDavid T. Pisarra, Esq - Los Angeles
 
David T. Pisarra is a multi-talented, mixed media professional. He is a Family Law Attorney specializing in Men’s and Father’s rights who hosts the Men’s Family Law Podcast, writes a weekly opinion column for the Santa Monica Daily Press, and contributes to The GoodMenProject.com and MensEnews.com websites.

He is an internationally sought after speaker on Men’s Rights, Personal Performance, and Leadership Lessons From The Law. His presentations to audiences from California to Virginia and as far south as Mexico have garnered high praise for their entertainment and educational value.

He is the author of four books, three for men: A Man’s Guide To Divorce Strategy,A Man’s Guide to Child CustodyA Man’s Guide to Domestic Violence; and the internationally recognized What About Wally? Co-Parenting A Pet With An Ex.

He is The Lawyer’s Lawyer. His trainings for other lawyers across the nation with Thomson/Reuters have been on topics as diverse as Family Law For Men, International Child Custody, Domestic Violence, and Podcasting for Professionals.

There are many speakers on leadership, but few are able to ground their talks from lessons learned in the trenches of the courts, and the battlefields of business – David Pisarra has the experience and the ability to motivate not just from the top down, but from the bottom up. As an entrepreneur he has built companies, and fixed ones that were in trouble.

He worked his way through law school going into companies that were in distress and quickly managed to find ways to cut costs, motivate the staff, and, build and implement a publicity plan for new client development. As an entrepreneur himself he has built a medical diagnostic company, a law practice and a multi-media publishing company.

Prior Speaking Engagements:

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  • Thomson/REUTERS
  • Los Angeles County Bar Association - MInor's Counsel Training
  • Santa Monica Parks and Recreation Department
  • BlogPaws Social Media Conference – Falls Church, VA
  • WordCamp LAX 2014 – Los Angeles, CA
  • Cross-Campus – Santa Monica, CA
  • New Visions Foundation – Santa Monica, CA
  • Rotary Club of Santa Monica
  • California Men's Gathering 
  • Westside Toastmasters – Santa Monica, CA
  • South Bay Study Group – White Zuckerman Warshavsky – Hermosa Beach, CA
  • Valley Study Group – White Zuckerman Warshavsky – Van Nuys, CA

International

     ·   Open Circle Society – Ajijic, Mexico
     ·   American Legion – Chapala, Mexico



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Edward M. Stephens, MD - New York

Edward M. Stephen, MD is an Irish medical graduate, Board Certified in Psychiatry working in New York for 47 years. He has, in addition to the general practice of psychiatry, had a special interest in family and interpersonal conflict and resolution.

He foundeed the OnStep Institute for mental health research in 1992, pioneering in the investigation of competiveness and consilence, the sciences of working together. (onstep.org)

In 2005, he created the Foundation for Male Studies to support the development of University level courses directed at understanding male participation in life and society. (malestudies.org)

Dr. Stephens has worked extensively with SAFE and Dr. Linda G. Mills around innovative ways to understand Domestic Violence (DV) and Intimate Partner Violence (IPV).

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